Comments on: Stick a Fork in My Fallopian Tubes, Because I’m DONE

By: Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:48:23 +0000

My first time at bat, I had twin boys. Then, I had a girl 8 days before their 2nd birthday. People still think I’m nuts. They think I should have thanked my lucky stars I knocked out two with one whack and should have been done after that. I wanted another one. And you know what. I’m kicking it single mommy style now and I still don’t think I’m done. I may find someone I might procreate with again later (post-divorce, etc.) and have a fourth. I don’t mind having 3 under 3 and I’m tackling it on my own and doing rather well if I say so myself. My mom always told me that I would know when I was done. I’m glad I didn’t cut the option out because I’m not so sure I’m done and the uncertainty is ok with me.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:36:06 +0000

This is such a great post, because I think the truly sane ones among our lot do indeed know the limits to what they can handle. You know you’re done. You’re at your capacity, and that’s totally cool.

Me, I’m probably good at handling the two I’ve got at most, but still, some lingering craziness keeps me wondering, should we have another? And, unless my husband suddenly agrees to do me without a condom, two is where it’s at.

By: Anne

Anne — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:25:22 +0000

There is a mom that I want so badly to be friends with (we keeping having tiny babies at the same time and so we always have a great time talking, but never any scheduled dates) who has six kids. She is so great at it is the thing – unlike me, who looks like I got hit by the no-sleep-dump-truck. This mom does kind of seem like the Duggar mom (up beat and energetic and kind and organized) Her clothes even match! I can’t even be jealous because she is so awe inspiring.

That said, I always feel like a huge ass, because I keep introducing her as the mom who has six kids. I guess that is probably worse than introducing a big-boob friend as the girl who has triple F’s or something. It’s just my awe talking! Out of line, and around my foot.

Anne

By: Megan J in Ohio

Megan J in Ohio — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:55:04 +0000

So, I will be the “Duggar” freak of the commenters posting here. I have nine. Yes, nine, as a gasp is heard around the world. People always ask if we are done, if we know how it happens, if we are a daycare, if we watch tv, if we have multiples. Forty years ago, this would not have even been a blip on anyone’s radar. Now it astonishes people.
I will say this: after four, it gets much easier, because the older ones can help a little. Toddlers love to run for diapers, and our big kids think it’s cool to carry a baby around. I have not slept in 19 years, and I do fantacize about sleep, but each one has been so delicious, and lovely and wonderful. Two are college girls now, and lovely young women.
I really don’t know what to say when people make rude comments, as I have never commented on anyone’s procreation, or the lack thereof, I just figured people do what is best for them. For me, I have loved having a big family. I am best friends with all three of my siblings, and I know that no matter what happens, my children will never be alone. They will have each other.Blessings to you all!

By: Loralee

Loralee — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:50:17 +0000

My kids are 13, 10 and 6 months. I think we will have one more because the age difference is HUGE and for me, raising one like an onlyish kid isn’t what I want.

I have HUGE amounts of help though. It’s a completely different scenario with much older kids.

I never really thought I would have 4 but it looks more and more like that is what it will be (though I think all the time I am getting too old for this.)

By: Missives From Suburbia

Missives From Suburbia — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:19:26 +0000

I think you need to warn us when you’re going to use a phrase like “I am stretched tighter than the asshole of a gnat getting cornholed by an elephant.” Some of us have minor bladder issues after giving birth to more than one child.

For several months after my second one was born (in 11 days, she will be a year old!), I thought I wasn’t done. Which was pretty amusing, considering I fought tooth and nail about having more than one. I really didn’t think I wanted two. We postponed my husband’s Big V for a few months, then after almost a full year of sleepless nights, I finally decided I couldn’t survive another newborn. But I still might want a third. So I’m pushing the spermless wonder for adoption of a third.

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:31:58 +0000

We keep getting hit with the other side of the California guideline: if you’re going to have kids, you should have two. “You ONLY have ONE??? Oh, er, how nice for you…” Makes me so angry, every time. I don’t feel like explaining to every stranger that we wanted two, but it didn’t work out. So not their business!

By: Jan

Jan — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:02:48 +0000

“Oh, oh, oh, it’s ‘logic’ “:
one true plus one false = false (negative as in “No”)

By: Sam

Sam — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 01:56:23 +0000

One of my friends said, “I guess I’m selfish. I only want two. I want to be able to afford to send them both to college.” This was as we were discussing ME having a third, and yes I was offended by the not so subtle cunty face slap.

For the record, I’m not done. California standards be damned!

By: Stacie

Stacie — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 19:26:26 +0000

You, know, when I was pregnant with my fourth (at 33), I knew I. Was. Done. I didn’t feel that way with the other 3, but I still, to this day, feel that way. They 4th is 3 1/2, the oldest is 15, and I. Am. Done.